Let’s explore the world of a sexless relationship. To some, this may sound impossible—even deadly. Yes, people believe that a relationship dies with the absence of sex. Other couples cling on their sex life primarily which makes them dependent on it. Some believe that this is a very important source of connection. While the rest uses it as a form of exercise or a stress reliever. But, is it nearly possible to survive and thrive in a relationship without sex?
If sex is needed in a relationship, will the relationship be less essential without it? Will it affect the emotional stability of both parties? How can you be happy without sex?
The Absence of Sex
There are a lot of causes that bring partners into a sexless relationship. According to Denise Donelly, a sociology researcher, there are two leading reasons why two people stop having sex. One, after a woman’s childbirth. The couple will have changes in their priorities, limited resources, time, and energy, which makes sex as an outsider in their list. Two, because of cheating partners. A cheating history usually alters the sex mood of a couple which eventually leads them not wanting the sex anymore.
Sex as a Rule
There are a lot of countries around the world that legally abides the wife to never refuse sex with her husband. It can be a form of abandonment with her legal duties as a wife and a valid ground for divorce.
Sex as a Need
Sex is a part of our basic human needs that we need to fulfill, according to scientific studies. There are even rare cases of physical illness caused by lack of sex. In other researches, it says that the absence of sex influences our mood. Which further says that sex makes the relationship a better experience when both parties are in a positive emotional state. When that need is not satisfied, it might cause conflicts between the two.
Sex as a Source of Happiness
Basically, sex is a product of two happy couple and not a source. It is not completely true that no one can ever be happy in a sexless relationship. However, it also shows that a relationship comes out better with sex. It could be a helping factor for a relationship to be happy but not essentially. A couple can certainly find other reasons to make their relationship a happy one. Maybe sex is just a cherry on top—a spice on the side.
Just recently, Facebook put out a new app designed for kids between the ages of 6 to 12. Facebook Messenger For Kids is supposed to make it easier for families to communicate, stay in touch, and perform a cell phone lookup on people they don’t know. But does it? Should you really be letting your 7-year-old use Facebook Messenger? Parents are divided.
Support For Messenger For Kids
The biggest argument in favor of the app is that kids should learn how to use social media responsibly. In theory, giving them access to social media accounts early on will teach them to be responsible with them. This includes running a cell phone lookup on anyone whose name they don’t recognize. But that’s just in theory. In practice, will that actually happen? I’m not sure if I’d want my 7-year-old reaching for a smartphone instead of Stuart Little at night. I’d rather they learn to read actual books, not emoji-filled messages from their friends.
Another reason why some parents think Messenger For Kids is great is because the video chat feature in the regular app also works in Messenger For Kids. That means grandparents and other relatives can video chat with their younger relatives. While this is probably a good thing, a lot of kids already use FaceTime to chat with their relatives and far away friends. They don’t need to use Messenger for that. All they need to do is tell Siri to FaceTime their grandparent, cousin, or other relative.
Arguments Against Messenger For Kids
It’s not always a good idea for young kids to be on social media.
Critics of the app raise concerns, not just about kids that may be too young to use social media, but also about the potential for bullying and other problems. Even though the app has some safety features set up and requires parents to create their child’s account, I still think it’s just more trouble than it’s worth. Children might not realize that they should be using a cell phone lookup to learn more about online strangers. I don’t see any really compelling reasons why younger kids should be on social media. There’s plenty of time for them to start using it when they’re teenagers.
Recent studies have found that using social media is causing epidemic levels of depression and low self-esteem among teens. I don’t want children to increase their risk of developing these problems by exposing them to social media when they aren’t even in third grade yet. They should be focusing on developing their imaginations, not their friends list.
So while some parents may find it useful, I recommend that most younger children shouldn’t be allowed to use Messenger For Kids. In my opinion, the benefits of the app aren’t worth it. There are plenty of other ways for kids to stay in touch with family and friends without using Facebook Messenger. They can enjoy social media, selfies, and likes on their posts when they get older.
Christmas is almost here, and chances are, you’re feeling a little stressed. I know I feel like I’m being pulled in 10 different directions. How do I get it all done, on top of my day job and keeping up with karate practice? I’ll tell you. It’s all about getting into the right frame of mind. I’m able to let go of how I had to catch a cheater in the act, or how many repairs I need to have done on my car. Instead, I focus on what needs to be done and think about how I can’t wait to spend time with my family again. Here are some of the ways that I personally reduce my stress levels around the holidays.
Focus On You
Even if it’s only a few minutes, take some time out of your day to focus on yourself. The holidays all about spending time with other people, mainly your family, but you should take care of you, too. Maybe you just went through a breakup where you were forced to catch a cheater in the act. Or the holiday season might not be going the way you imagined it. Whatever it is, you need a few moments to decompress.
Keep It Simple
Accept that there isn’t enough time to do everything.
Don’t go overboard. Remember that you’re only human and you can’t possibly do everything. Make sure you only commit to plans and events that you can not only attend, but enjoy. The most important part of the season is family. It’s not worth attending every event, handling all the cooking, and buying all the presents if you can’t sit down and relax with the people you love.
Stay Within Your Budget
It’s not hard to accidentally overspend when you’re caught in the rush of buying Christmas presents. But you know what’s even easier and will leave you feeling less stressed? Creating a budget ahead of time and sticking to it. Resist the temptation to fall for “good deals” that make you buy more things than you were planning to. Besides, with the Internet, you can find the best price for just about any gift. You can also use it to look up decoration ideas, find out how to catch a cheater in the act, and try delicious new holiday recipes.
Try New Traditions
Not everything has to be perfect. We all imagine the picture perfect holiday dinner, but that doesn’t always happen. Sometimes, mistakes happen or things don’t go as planned. That’s why you should be open to trying new holiday traditions. Maybe you and your family will discover something fun that you never tried before, like making crafts or putting popcorn on the tree. You can share your own stories with me by clicking here.